Child Visitation - How to Build and Use Bonds to Improve Your Child Visitation Timeshare

“Bonds” are one of the buzzwords that you will hear people use when talking about why they should have the children and not the other parent. Bonds are normally thought of as being intangible and indefinable. But wouldn’t you be miles ahead if you could show objectively that you had bonds and weren’t just using a buzzword? Of course you would.

While building bonds is a very real activity it has always been difficult to define for the non-psychologist among us. Well not any more, or at least not the activities that build bonds. Bond building is done through repetitive actions, also known as rituals.

The reading of the bedtime story every night becomes a ritual that children not only get used to, but become dependent on. I find the bedtime story to be the most important ritual of all for young children. The reason being that as a parent that one action sets the tone for nearly ½ of their life. Small children will go to sleep with a pleasant story read by their most important role model and will sleep a very long time and wake with that as the last memory they had.

There are other rituals that we do as parents, from eating dinner at the table as a family, to going shopping together or going to church. These are all rituals that build bonds with our children.

As children grow the rituals may change. Think of some of the sport figures you have seen interviewed. Do you recall seeing them talk about their parents attending every game they ever played, or having their parent support them in a sports activity (racing is mostly a family sport).

Now that you have an idea of how ritual build bonds, you can list the ritual/bond building activities you do with your child. You can even create new ones and taught them as having grown and changing with your child to meet their needs as the family relationship changed.

You can either keep your visitation from being eroded or increase it by using the rituals. If you are the only parent that is supporting the ritual, then you may need more time for the child to participate in it, or not have time taken away because the child will suffer.

If you haven’t got a ritual for every day you spend with your child, then you will need to start them right away. Remember they are best if they work for both of you.