Child Custody False Allegations - An Honest Parents Guide to Understanding Dirty Tactics

There is nothing more devastating to an honest and trustworthy parent during a child custody battle than to have the other parent begin to use underhanded and dirty tactics. The most baffling thing is that you just don’t understand how the other parent of your child could stoop to such devastating lows. Dealing blows that will surely make your child pay the price for years to come.

The baffling part is that while you may understand that your relationship with them is broken and that you will never be together again, you can’t understand why they would try to tear away the fabric that is your child’s connection to both parents. Well there is a reason. The reason is you.

In some way you have created a problem for the other parent. Chances are it started with the break up. The circumstances could have been bad, or one wanted it and the other didn’t, none of that matters now. That’s just the most likely way the seed got planted. The catalyst that made it grow could be that you moved on and they didn’t. Perhaps you started dating, or seeing friends they thought were “theirs”. Undoubtedly things got worse between you.

But how does the other parent go from being angry at you, to making the leap of trying to destroy your relationship with your child? That’s what we’re really talking about here. Not them making false charges, or saying you did things you didn’t. Those are topics. The true issue is that they want to take you away from your child and gain control over you.

In a high conflict custody battle there is little the other parent won’t do to block you from having joint legal or joint physical custody. While it might not make sense to you that a problem between you could drive them to such length, the truth is that the seed that grew is now nurtured by the fact that you are doing well as a parent. Yes, that’s right. You are a good parent and are not suffering. The only way they can make you suffer is to cause you pain by making accusations and throwing false allegations around about you. And you see no end in sight.

Well here’s where it all comes together. The more successfully you move on from them the more they resist and the bigger that accusations become. But you use the fact that they resist getting along with you to your advantage. You see the professionals you run into along the way have seen this many times before. Simply stick to the facts that you are a responsible parent and that there were never issues brought up until you moved on.

Time is your ally. If you keep your cool and focus on the fact you are a great parent, then they will not succeed. But if you focus on the negative things they bring up, they will control you and it will never end. So take control by focusing on denying false claims, and reminding the professionals you meet along the way that you are in a high conflict battle that you are refusing to give into too. Remember, living well is the best revenge.